After watching Isoken, I had some questions but I didn’t want to ask them immediately because I wanted to wait for more people to watch it. I told my bestie that I could find faults in anything no matter how seemingly perfect it is. Get me Mother Teresa and I’ll find fault with her nun’s habit. It’s a blessing and a curse. Not that the movie was perfect anyway. Predictable, but good.
So back to my questions; I’d say spoilers ahead but if you haven’t seen the movie by now, you probably no go see am again, so meh.
Isoken was dating Osaze and Kevin simultaneously. I think it’s wrong. When you’re dating someone, there’s an implied exclusivity. For her to seriously date those two guys at the same time because, oh, she is 35 and yadi-yada-yobo was plain wrong.
If a guy was seriously dating two girls, making each feel like the main chic and planting seeds of marriage in their hearts like Isoken did, (remember the ‘yes please!’ look she gave Benjamin when he said he wanted to settle down and all the other subtle hints, and how she practically told Oyibo guy she really wanted to settle down), we’d be having the said guy’s head for buffet.
But nobody complained because it’s Isoken. Why?
She knew something was off yet she went on with the wedding plans for months and months and months.
A. Why didn’t she call the wedding off sooner? Why perpetuate the stereotype that women are indecisive beings who in their desperation to get married go ahead with marriage plans whether they really like a guy or not?
B. Why be so selfish as to call off a wedding a few hours before the wedding when you’ve known all along?
Why is Nollywood – and Hollywood – overly dramatic? Must the good guy be leaving? Must the lover have to race to the airport or to a goodbye party to profess his/her love? So once a babe says no to a guy, he automatically gets a transfer and the babe races last minute to the airport or to a farewell party?
Why was Isoken’s mother to blame? Haba! A 35-year-old woman blames her mother for making her like a man?! Did your mother make you find him attractive? Did she make you like him so much?
Yes, the mother was a handful, but Isoken liked Osaze on her own. And instead of manning up and agreeing that she messed up, she acted like she’d never liked him and was practically forced into the relationship because of her mother. Boohoo!
A. What if she had no second choice? No Oyibo guy? No Plan B? Do you think she would have called off that wedding?
B. How many women do this – marry someone they’re not really sure of because the oyibo guy never came?
C. In situations like Question B, is it advisable to marry the Osaze or wait for the Kevin who may or may not show up?
There, these are my questions.
I heard someone refer to Isoken as a feminist movie, a movie with feminist ideals. In the words of Nkem Owoh: “Upeketem!!!”
That nice movie is about as feminist as my light bulb.
But somebody please, answer my questions.
Written by Ijeoma Chinonyerem