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The Questions I Have About The Movie ‘Isoken’

After watching Isoken, I had some questions but I didn’t want to ask them immediately because I wanted to wait for more people to watch it. I told my bestie that I could find faults in anything no matter how seemingly perfect it is. Get me Mother Teresa and I’ll find fault with her nun’s habit. It’s a blessing and a curse. Not that the movie was perfect anyway. Predictable, but good.

So back to my questions; I’d say spoilers ahead but if you haven’t seen the movie by now, you probably no go see am again, so meh.

Question 1:

Isoken was dating Osaze and Kevin simultaneously. I think it’s wrong. When you’re dating someone, there’s an implied exclusivity. For her to seriously date those two guys at the same time because, oh, she is 35 and yadi-yada-yobo was plain wrong.

If a guy was seriously dating two girls, making each feel like the main chic and planting seeds of marriage in their hearts like Isoken did, (remember the ‘yes please!’ look she gave Benjamin when he said he wanted to settle down and all the other subtle hints, and how she practically told Oyibo guy she really wanted to settle down), we’d be having the said guy’s head for buffet.

But nobody complained because it’s Isoken. Why?

Question 2:

She knew something was off yet she went on with the wedding plans for months and months and months.

A. Why didn’t she call the wedding off sooner? Why perpetuate the stereotype that women are indecisive beings who in their desperation to get married go ahead with marriage plans whether they really like a guy or not?

B. Why be so selfish as to call off a wedding a few hours before the wedding when you’ve known all along?

Question 3:

Why is Nollywood – and Hollywood – overly dramatic? Must the good guy be leaving? Must the lover have to race to the airport or to a goodbye party to profess his/her love? So once a babe says no to a guy, he automatically gets a transfer and the babe races last minute to the airport or to a farewell party?

Question 4:

Why was Isoken’s mother to blame? Haba! A 35-year-old woman blames her mother for making her like a man?! Did your mother make you find him attractive? Did she make you like him so much?

Yes, the mother was a handful, but Isoken liked Osaze on her own. And instead of manning up and agreeing that she messed up, she acted like she’d never liked him and was practically forced into the relationship because of her mother. Boohoo!

Question 5:

A. What if she had no second choice? No Oyibo guy? No Plan B? Do you think she would have called off that wedding?

B. How many women do this – marry someone they’re not really sure of because the oyibo guy never came?

C. In situations like Question B, is it advisable to marry the Osaze or wait for the Kevin who may or may not show up?

There, these are my questions.

I heard someone refer to Isoken as a feminist movie, a movie with feminist ideals. In the words of Nkem Owoh: “Upeketem!!!”

That nice movie is about as feminist as my light bulb.

But somebody please, answer my questions.

Written by Ijeoma Chinonyerem

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Walt Shakes(@Walt_Shakes) is an award-winning Nigerian writer, poet and veteran blogger. He is a lover of the written word. the faint whiff of nature, the flashing vista of movies, the warmth of companionship and the happy sound of laughter.

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  1. Achoooooooo!
    The dust and cobwebs that has collected on my corner eh can be used to build a Bungalow!
    Anyways I’ve not seen the movie. I plan to see it with 10 days in the suncity.
    Walt I greet you with my head touching the ground. 😀

    • shakespeareanwalter

      And I accept your greeting, my daughter. Now clean up your dusty and cobwebby room and leave no more.

  2. I haven’t seen Isoken so I won’t have answers to your question if I can even call them questions.
    You my dear were nit-picking, this is the time your fault finding is a curse and not a blessing.
    Romantic comedies are not particularly ground breaking, barely anything new. The aim is to make you feel good, generally the aim for most movies. Running to the airport might be terrible cliché but it works at pulling the heart strings. This is why it’s not yet out of style.
    I suggest next time you enter the movie theater with the right expectations for the right genre, when it’s not able to be met then you can properly criticize the movie.

    • shakespeareanwalter

      This is the same kind of nitpicking that some people (*not looking at Somadina and Ejiro*) used to wear down The Wedding Party. How did Banky W’s character know to find Adesua at the beach? Who lit the bonfire at the beach? Why did that happen? How did this happen?

      Lol. People be overthinking romantic comedies. ?

      But hey, these are my darling Ijeoma’s worries ?. I had to help her air them.

  3. I shall try to answer some of the questions.
    Because I am not a feminist, I can’t say if the movie is feminist or not but I will try and answer some of the questions based on the African culture and it’s evolution.

    1. In the African culture a woman is allowed as many men as possible to ‘woo’ her but a man cannot be wooing several women at the same time. Reason is a woman us regarded as a ‘flower’ that is sought after. I remember my stepmother telling us how so many men were coming for her hand in marriage, back then it was rare to find a female degree holder. One Sunday, she said she came home from church and met 5 of them waiting for her including my dad (bless his soul) lol.
    Because a woman is a findee, she does not entirely have control of who comes to find her. This is not the same case with the finder. Lol.

    2. Certain times you find yourself in a situation where you are not entirely excited about a situation, you just excited with the idea. Everybody around her was so excited about the whole proposal and she caught the bug. As the D day drew closer and closer the reality of the situation hit her and she had to really ask herself some questions.

    B. It would have been more selfish of her to carry on knowing she was settling.

    3. Lol. If there were no just Dramas in the woods of Holly and Nolly , how will you rate the move D?

    4. Well , if her mum didn’t constantly remind her that she was single and nagged at her for it, she just might have been sure of. If her mum told her daily that It didn’t matter if she was married or not and applauded her when she got promoted or something like that, she wouldn’t have felt any pressure. She would have perhaps really taken her time to be with who she really wants to be with and not who checks the generally accepted boxes.

    5. A. If there wasn’t any oyinbo guy, I’m guessing Osaze wouldn’t have proposed as the time he did. Osaze’s proposal also came as a result of some pressure as well. If there wasn’t any pressures, the courtship would have gone on long and relaxing enough for the parties to be sure.

    B. Thousands do so. Some do so because they have mum’s like Isoken’s mum. Others do so because they are in a race with time.

    C. If you have the balls to wait despite the pressure from family, society and time, then do so. I always say follow the voice prompts in your heart or the ones from outside. At the end of the day, it is an individual choice.

  4. I have watched Isoken and the only valid question there is question 5.

    I think you finding all these ‘faults’ is because you have a fault-finding reputation to live up to and you don’t want to fall hand.

    Question 1.
    That is a moral one to say the least, the focus of the movie is not one on morals and even if it is all you could pick out of it, you feeling irked that Isoken(the character) was not placed on a moral pedestal is your own undoing. No be Jesus film. And except it was a different Isoken that I watched, she wasn’t simultaneously dating them both, while it was obvious that she was dating Osaze, she was only open to the idea of a thrilling and personal friendship with oyibo. Ofcourse, the feelings came, and even when he kissed her for the first time and she lingered, it was the strength of her character that made her walk away and not ‘simultaneously date’. In regards to the question of double standard, oh pulease! Just as there are fuckboys in this life there are also fuckgirls, and they thrive successfully regardless. Moving on.

    Question 2.

    I think you missed the whole point/message of the movie, you should go watch it again.

    ‘ Why perpetuate the stereotype that women are indecisive beings who in their desperation to get married go ahead with marriage plans whether they really like a guy or not?’

    There is no perpetuating any stereotype anything. This, this is the reality brought about by the pressure society has come to place upon single ladies whose, as they would like to put it, time is ticking. The desperation to be out of that pressure is real and for you to pass it off as a stereotype is quite blind. It is courage my dear, not selfishness. Isoken had let this presure get to her so that she was almost fully cowered by it, this uncertainty of tomorrow, that she was ready to go with what was readily available even though it wasn’t a fit. That she calls off the wedding before walking that isles is courage brought about by a re-realization of self and the power of choice.

    As for the question 3 I think the comment above mine has answered that.

    Question 4.

    Like I said, go watch the movie again and maybe this time don’t spend the time looking for faults that you miss movie. Isoken’s mother wasn’t just Isoken’s mother, she was society and it’s pressure/expectation personified. That Isoken blames her is on a large scale pointing out the that society is to be blamed for this pressure/expectation…

    Boohoo yourself bikonu! Isoken did not once act Like she didn’t like Osaze, from the onset it was clear that she was attracted to him, this man who would save her from the fangs of Society, this knight in all his traditional-African-man armour. This attraction as at the time went on as just that, not evolving. So, as Oyibo showed up it became a question of love, a question of if he, Osaze, was the one she really wanted to spend her life with. Mind you that with Osaze she was assured stability and with it her ambitions ‘behind’, nothing more. But with Oyibo came a thrill, satiating a longing of just wanting to be and be accepted for just being. With Oyinbo came the assurance of not sacrificing her own life and ambitions for anyone’s. And this was why the battle of choice took that long.

    Question 5 is so valid, very valid. 5a. I thought this too but then again we need to have options to make a choice, don’t we?. And I just resigned that it wasn’t the design of the movie. That’s a question for the real world.

    5b and c are both questions the movie poses to the society. Just in my extended family alone know the struggle
    to ‘marry commot ground’ , now imagine me taking a step out into other families.

    Biko, go and watch the movie again.

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