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When I Speak Of Feminism…

I would like to begin this article by emphatically stating that I do NOT believe in the equality of men and women.

When we say that men and women are equal, what are we exactly talking about? How do we measure the equality of both sexes? There are aspects of life in which women have proven themselves superior, and there are aspects in which men have proven themselves to be more exceptional.

The question therefore should be: where is the middle ground? If there are things that women excel at, and there are things that men excel at, then how do we, as a society, measure true equality? I believe that there are simply too many different facets that each gender excels at to come to a conclusion that any is superior to the other.

What I do believe in is the equal treatment of both genders. Because the female gender is deemed weaker or inferior to the male is not enough ground to discriminate against them, especially because there is simply no proper basis to come to this rather absurd conclusion. Even in the situation where men were superior to women, it does not justify the manner in which most female children are raised and treated by society today – in particular the African society. And, due to the fact that I am strongly opposed to this treatment, I consider myself a Feminist.

The title of one of Chimamanda Adichie’s speech is WE SHOULD ALL BE FEMINISTS. And I wholeheartedly agree. I agree because feminism for me does not argue that women are equal to men, but that men and women should be treated equally. Equal treatment should be meted to the male and female child alike. It is the way every rational thinking society should be. It is an ideal something that every forward-thinking human should embrace. Yes, WE SHOULD ALL BE FEMINISTS.

For me, feminism is training your female child to grow up to be independent as you would your male child. When I speak of feminism, I say that the female child should be given as much education as you would the male child.

When I speak of feminism, I say that the female child should not be taught to live for the sole purpose of getting married to a guy and having his children.

When I speak of feminism, I say that females should be able to be just as sexually active as males without being stigmatized.

When I speak of feminism, I say that a woman should be paid the same amount a man would be paid for doing the same job.

When I speak of feminism, I say that women should generally be afforded the same opportunities, the same rights as men would.

The question of whether a gender is superior or inferior is irrelevant. What matters is that equal opportunities are granted to both sexes to excel, to make their individual choices, to aspire to be whatsoever it is they wish. It is the logical, sensible thing to do. We should all be feminists!

When I speak of feminism, I say ‘Do unto Sade as you would do unto Kola. Do unto Onyinye as you would do unto Emeka. Do unto Aminat as you would do unto Buhari. Do unto Vanessa as you would do unto Marcel.’

Every child deserves equal treatment irrespective of his or her sex.

Written by Tobi Adeyemi


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24 comments

  1. Adeleke Julianah

    I absolutely love this piece.
    Straight to the point, well analyzed.
    The Eccentricwriter has dud it!

  2. Nice thoughts. Seconded by me.

  3. This message is endorsed by me, a card-carrying male feminist! 😀

  4. ‘The question of whether a gender is superior or inferior is irrelevant. What matters is that equal opportunities are granted to both sexes to excel, to make their individual choices, to aspire to be whatsoever it is they wish. It is the logical, sensible thing to do. We should all be feminists!’

    I felt like jumping to my feet to give a standing ovation when I read this. Someone please get this piece to Chimamanda Adichie. We really should all be feminists. #EnoughWithTheChauvinism

  5. Hope you not only talk but also practise it. Male privilege is alive & kicking in Nigeria

    • shakespeareanwalter

      How can it not when we run under the umbrella of ‘Africanness’ to reject anything that upsets the social order we are used to

  6. Impressive. Properly placed into perspective, it’s not about equality of the sexes but about equal opportunities for both sexes. Though I see it as synonymous but I guess we are differentiating with the fine prints.

  7. Good write up. However, the writer seems to confuse difference with inequality. Men and women are equal but different. No gender is made superior by its inherent ability to excel better than the other gender in one area. That ability is nothing but gender difference. Come to think of it, it will actually be hard to practise equal treatment of both gender if you believe ab initio that there exists a superiority. At the point where that superiority is manifested by one gender, you will be inclined unconsciously or consciously to treat him/her better leading to unequal treatment. But if you start out with understanding them as gender differences, it ensures that balance is not upset. This is my feminism.

    • shakespeareanwalter

      *ovation* I actually never saw it like that before. I know of anti feminists, men especially, who argue that since women are clamouring for equality, how come they don’t do the heavy lifting in some very physical instances. I guess the concept of gender difference answers that.

    • We’re saying the same thing. Only that I think, because we are so different, ‘equality’ cannot be adequately measured.

      • That is where the problem is. Why do we have to measure equality in the first place? Equality is equality. It’s either there or not.

    • sally kenneth dadzie

      God bless you for this!

    • Thank you!!! I was wondering if no one would point that out.

  8. sally kenneth dadzie

    Walter, I love you.

  9. While I’ll applaud this article as I would anyone feminism article. I’ll agree with Chisom that the writer got the idea of equality and difference twisted a bit.
    She wrote “The question of whether a gender is superior or inferior is irrelevant” that pretty much screams equality to me.

    Anyhow, the most important thing is that gender shouldn’t be a reason for doing or not doing anything quoting Chimamanda again. Lol.

  10. Brilliant article. I want to point out that when people speak of gender equality, they do not mean that the man and woman are SAME and in that sense equal. That would be absurd. Yet this is precisely the argument the anti-feminists put forward. When people speak of equality, it has always been EQUAL RIGHTS. That’s what it is.
    And the question concerning inferiority or superiority is at the heart of gender inequality and therefore is relevant. Some people have a wrong notion that one gender is superior to the other. We need to bring up the question of superiority and discuss it rather than say it is irrelevant.

  11. Oh my! Tobi this is good. This is reeeaaally good!!! I love!

  12. Michael cyprian O.

    I totally agree. It’s bullshit the way society treats women.. And whisper it.. Islam

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