For a long time, whether in conversations or debates, magazines or books, I’ve heard or come across these three words: The Girl Code.
Now, the most prominent rule of this so-called code is that you cannot marry your friend/sister/cousin’s ex; whether ex-boyfriend, ex-fiancé, or ex-husband.
Many women have been persuaded to leave relationships, based on the fact that their partner had once been in a relationship with one of their relatives, friends or best friends.
The one which I find ridiculous is when the alleged friend of the girl in the relationship is now married, has children and still insists on her friend not going out with or marrying her ex. If the reasons were different, for instance, if the friend knows her ex had a venereal disease, is abusive, a miser or without ambition, I can understand.
In such a case, I would expect that friend to expressly spell out her objections to the friend who’s dating her ex and then leave her to make an informed, adult decision, whether to go ahead or not.
Thinking on this has led me to ask a few questions, which I need help with getting the answers.
- Who wrote this Girl Code?
- What are the other rules in this Code? ‘Cos the only one I’ve heard about is this ‘Ex Rule’.
- Where can I get a copy of the Code?
- Seeing as many of us are someone’s ex, what becomes of us if we decide to follow this Code?
Written by Eketi Ette