Will this marriage go on happily if we are unable to have children?
If the answer is no, don’t marry him or her.
If the answer is yes, be sure that he or she means it.
Ask it again and again.
When you’re certain, then you can carry on (although this isn’t fool-proof. Some people lie, some change their minds later on. But at least let it be that you talked about it.)
Marriage was made for companionship, for the couple to have someone to lean on, someone to help wherever the other has a deficiency.
Anyone can reproduce outside of marriage, so I don’t believe marriage is mainly for reproduction.
Children are wonderful blessings, an added advantage in a marriage. It can be heart-rending when one can’t have them. But it is an advantage a marriage should be able to survive without, especially when the fertility treatments have failed and couple in question choose not to adopt or use a surrogate.
It is an advantage not everyone will have.
So before you find out his sperm count is zero and her fallopian tubes are blocked; before the painful and invasive fertility treatments, ask him or her if the marriage can stand without children.
Some marry for love and companionship.
Some marry for kids.
So before you say ‘I Do’, be sure that you and your partner are on the same page.
Written by Eketi Ette