Originally published on madamenoire.com
‘90s R&B songs will have you out here thinking that having a healthy sex life means hours upon hours of nonstop, back-breaking sex that spans from the evening to the wee hours of the morning. Real life, however, will have you toss out those unrealistic expectations with the quickness.
In a recent episode of The Real, the panel weighed in on how long they believe that sex should last. The conversation was based on a survey conducted by Penn State Erie researchers Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani on 50 members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research. Participants included psychologists, physicians, social workers, marriage/family therapists and nurses “who have collectively seen thousands of patients over several decades.” According to their findings, people found one to two minutes of sex to be too short. Three to seven minutes of sex was considered adequate. Seven to thirteen minutes of sex was voted to be desirable and ten to thirty minutes of sex was considered to be too long.
“A man’s or woman’s interpretation of his or her sexual functioning as well as [their] partners rely on personal beliefs developed in part from society’s messages, formal and informal,” the researchers said. “Unfortunately, today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections, and all-night-long intercourse.”
The results of the survey sparked an interesting debate on The Real panel. While Adrienne Bailon felt that twenty to thirty minutes of sex—foreplay included—was fairly average, Jeanie Mai was here for the five-minute wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am sessions. Lonnie Love said that she would be down to go two brief rounds if it isn’t a work night, while Tamera Mowry expressed that she enjoys “lovemaking” that wrap after about fifteen minutes—excluding foreplay.
Obviously, the answer to this question comes down to personal preference, but generally speaking, how long do you believe sex should last? Do sound off in the comments section.