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“Happiness Is A Choice.” A Writer’s Advice On How To Be Happier Everyday

Writer and illustrator Vincent Vincent shares constructive and easy-to-follow advice on how to boost your happiness. Check on it below:

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Do you take happiness for granted? That it’s something that will simply slot into place when everything aligns correctly? I certainly did until recently.

I thought it was something that would just happen.

Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t feeling particularly downbeat, but I wasn’t in the best place either.

I’d devoted three years to a project that hadn’t panned out and was working through the loss of my father to prostate cancer.

It’s easy to take it for granted that we’ll be happy – or at least be happier – ‘one day’. But life can get in the way, and dealing with work, family, friends, relationships, etc., can be hard.

Fortunately, at the start of the year, I came to the conclusion that happiness is a choice. Like most things of any value, happiness doesn’t just come along and land in our laps. We have to put the effort in and work at it every day.

I realized the key to being happy is accepting we are happy right now.

Vincent Vincent says you can work at being happy

Not everything in our lives has to be OK, and there’ll probably always be something worrying going on in the world. But if we choose to be happy today, right now – no matter what’s going on – no one can take it away from us.

Back in January, I decided to work out what makes me feel the happiest: what I could do every day that would bring me joy. Once I’d done this and started working at being happier, my mood lifted, I felt much more creative and I started exploring an exciting new direction.

So, how can you get happier? Here are a few ideas: I can’t guarantee they’ll all work for you, and you may need to approach things from a different angle. But I promise, once you start working at being happier, it’s only a matter of time before you are.

Here are my seven steps to happiness:

MAKE A CONSCIOUS DECISION TO BE HAPPIER

Accept you are in control and that you deserve to be happy.

How you see the world shapes your world. Decide to be gloomy and the world seems gloomy. Decide to be happy and the world will seem like a happier place. Happiness is your choice, no one else’s, and you’re in the driving seat.

START JOURNALING

Writing, drawing and doodling can lift your mood, boost your creativity and help give personal insight. Too busy to journal? Give yourself just five minutes a day to do it and you’ll be glad you did. Journaling is fun and the Internet/TV/Bar will still be there once you’ve finished.

REGISTER HOW YOU FEEL

Keep an eye on your feelings throughout the day. If your mood drops, try to identify what’s getting you down and deal with it.

Then focus on the day’s positive stuff. One negative thing doesn’t have to overshadow everything else. Make a positivity list to remind yourself not everything is bad.

FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT

Some days everything seems to go wrong, but there’s still room for happiness.

Affirmations are a great way to lift your mood. Repeating positive phrases such as ‘I am happy’ or ‘I feel confident’ will help change the way you feel. You can say these positive mantras out loud (probably better to do this in private!) or write them down. I do affirmations every day and can testify that they really work.

BE KIND

What we put out into the world comes back to us. Random acts of kindness can take seconds but they can have a massive impact on someone else’s day. Being kind to other people makes the world a better place and boosts the way you feel.

BE GRATEFUL

Take time every day to focus on the things you have that make you happy. This can be anything from a special person in your life to a brilliant book you’re reading, or a weird cloud that looks like Ed Sheeran.

Accepting we have good stuff in our lives reminds us we are happy with what we have, which helps put happiness in the present, rather than the future.

KEEP TRYING

Life’s an ongoing process, so today is your happy ending. The happiness you feel right now is all that matters. Set yourself goals and aim to improve your life, but focus on happiness here and now, and don’t give up.

Vincent Vincent is a writer, illustrator and graphic designer living in London. Follow Vincent on Instagram @YouAreAUnicornBook You also can buy his creative journal, You Are A Unicorn, on Amazon.


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Walt Shakes(@Walt_Shakes) is an award-winning Nigerian writer, poet and veteran blogger. He is a lover of the written word. the faint whiff of nature, the flashing vista of movies, the warmth of companionship and the happy sound of laughter.

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7 comments

  1. Thanks, I so needed to read this. I especially loved “fake it till you make it”

  2. “Do you take happiness for granted? That it’s something that will simply slot into place when everything aligns correctly? I certainly did until recently.
    “I thought it was something that would just happen.”

    This is the problem with those of us who are unhappy and often wallow in it. We tend towards the belief that happiness is something that just happens instead of something to work towards.
    I love how illuminating this piece is. Really something to keep close to heart.

  3. I’m absolutely with the Author of this highly spirited and soul stirring piece of writing that happiness is a choice. I’m greatly inspired and reminded of one of my all time favorite quote credited to the person of the Legendary Abraham Lincoln that reads thus…’Most folks are just as happy as they make up their minds to be’. Ultimately, the power lies with us as we war and strive within ourselves when the question…’to be or not to be’ pops up in our minds especially during those dark times when happiness seems to be pretty unattainable and finding that happy place becomes something of a struggle. ‘Life’s too short to be sitting around miserable’ as sung by Rihanna and so for me, I’ve conditioned my mind overtime to see the dawn of each new day as a great time to be happy and alive. Plus, spending time with positive and good-spirited people I’ve learnt; also helps a great deal. LOL

    Thanks for sharing Walter, I wish for you every happiness. LOL

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